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what do you do when u're sad? hmmm i was thinking abt it just now on the way back. well i was feeling a little down cause i was starting to hu(2) si(1) luan(4) siang(3) again...

• some pple prefer to shop and spend. maybe cause it gives them a sense of power and control. it makes them feel, "hey i'm not doing too bad..." but this is bad, cause after things have subsided u'll find tt u've just burnt a hole in your pocket. something not tt healthy if u dont' have the financial power to splurge in the first place. shopping after u burst ur budget has reverse effects. trust me.

• others would eat their sorrows away. eating does make the depressed feel better. it's worked for me too, and it's really the most unhealthy and tasty foods (ie chocolates, deep fried stuffs, ice cream, hard liquor) tt have maximal effect. afterall, isn't there experimental evidence tt such 'happy foods' really work?

• others just sit in a corner and mull over things. keep everything to themselves and fustrate everyone around them. well, everyoneo who cares for them tt is. sometimes it may be the best thing to do cause u're really clueless as to what to do. or what to say. just sitting at a side. quiet. thinking.

• again there are pple who work themselves hard, set themselves on fire to distract themselves. occupy themselves with so many activities tt they hardly have time to catch a breath. this works well, not to mention the gain in productivity tt u acquire. sadly - escapism. not facing the problem and nothing gets solved. argubly this may be good cause it provides the delay for time to heal.

• a couple of pple will go into a spiral of denial. pestering the problem and going on and on, convincing themselves tt they're really trying to solve the problem but in fact they're afraid to let go. cause they feel there's too much to lose.

• and there are pple who just want to talk. a shoulder to cry on; a listening ear. but no one seems to be around.

well i guess i'm a bit of all the above. it's hard to neatly categorise anyone into these neat little boxes really, probably there're even more behaviours than the above which i have no knowledge of anyway. oh well, i should be bathing then go study... but it's hard to study when ur mind's not settled yet.