what type of relationship should a guy and girl have? just as friends and not as lovers. u think tt's possible? u noe, i really used to think that that was not possible at all and any attempt by a guy to talk to and know a girl more would be a blatant indication that he was interested in her (> a friend). tt sort of thinking really affected my social circle. it's not very healthy. and because u don't talk to girls often, when u finally come across the one which u think would make a good gf/partner, u just screw up.

yep. u just screw up. and it's not a good feeling when u actually do.

so how many pple feel the same way as i do? i reallly hope that i'm not the only one 'cause sometimes it can be quite odd when u just mean a friendship and yet pple shun away from u 'cause they think u're trying something funny. which isn't very nice, both for their impression on u, and ur impression of them...

actually i'm quite glad for pple like anin, charmain, emily, charis, joan, kim and so many other girls who actually bother to talk to me. come to think of it, it was only recently that i started talking to girls. in the past, i wouldn't talk to girls for fear of causing misunderstandings and being suaned... that was the enviroment and philosophy that i was imbued with.

and that has cost me dearly.

talking to girls is getting to know them more, getting to interact and hone ur social skills. learn how to treat a girl in a way tt will make them feel special. it just feels good holding a door for a girl and picking up the tab after a meal. not tt u are trying to impress them or woo them or anything like that, but it just feels good inside. :)

and one thing i've learnt is that when a girl talks to u doesn't mean that she likes u. precisely 'cause they all realise this philosophy that i've only recently discovered for myself only -- that boys are meant to interact with girls (as friends) and it's a perfectly normal form of social behaviour.

yes, laugh ur heads off, but i'm telling u that this is something tt i've only learnt recently and am still trying to understand.