hmmm. the happenings these days have started me thinking again about priorities in life.

just came home from dinner with ivan and alvin. and cause ivan had to cut hair first so i was walking ard on my own in far east. i was looking at the shops there and the people there. and i suddenly thought to myself how ironical this is. the youngsters here are spending so much lor. and it's supposed to be a hip and happening place. but how can they spend so much money when they arn't even making the $? yes. they $ must come from someone, their parents. sometimes u can just tell from their mannerisms tt they're probably not really very well off anyway. but yet spending so much. it's just not right.

and alot of them just dress up really well or so they think. or i think. and some of them have quite good dress sense actually. but is that what really attracts? is that what pple look for? or more of another attempt to pierce the thick barrier into gaining social acceptance and recognition?

but it's so silly. cause the measure of success is definately not whether u have the hippest watch or coolest 3/4s or the funkiest hairdo. and the pple who use these standards to measure whether u're cool or hip enough arn't really successful themselves. and tt's from my standard, which i believe is more realistic.

the successful person is one who has a good career. and of course there are many other aspects to being successful, but this is just one which i think is quite important. cause a person with a good career is attractive. cause he is someone who is able to take care of the family and able to provide. isn't tt supposed to be a more impt point? i mean, even if u have the coolest attire, accessories and sorts, but unable to get a good paying job and give ur wife and family a good quality life, what's the point?

which often brings to mind this image of a cute guy and a beautiful wife who are iving a a cramped house with a baby in her arms and newspapers in his arms. the baby's crying away and he can't be bothered, she's screaming away at him, and give them a couple of years down.

look at the advertistments around and u'll come to the realisation that if they don't have the money, where are they going to get those clothes/cars/handphones that they are modeling for? so what? is it tt good looks are really just a an accessory item in life? i guess so. just weigh which situation is better -- to have an attractive partner but trouble paying the bills; a average looking partner with the ability to afford much more in life.

cause the bottom line is still whether u're able to provide. and tt's the more (although not most) important factor here. and of course pple who have successful careers and are good looking as well are hot stuff. which is why most of them are quickly snapped up.

but of course. but these are the rare species.

so what are we really looking for? for acceptance? for pple to look at u and say "wah... look at the guy/girl there... so chio/yandao." is that it? but does that really matter? does it change ur life at all? it may make u feel better for a moment but has it really changed ur life? the only way it has is probably to increase ur faith in material things and cause u to end up spending even more to furthur enhance ur 'image'. cause the moment of satisfaction then has been so sweet. but it's only a moment isn't it.

lots of things are going through my mind now. i'll continue tml but i've got to sleep now.