on the way home a couple of days back i was thinking about what was happening around me. about relationships and what they all mean actually. and how true it is when someone says that when u're out looking for one, u arn't ready. i thought i knew that already. but so i didn't. and the more i ruminate on it, the more i find tt profound philosophy underlying it.

i heard on radio once that the best relationships are those which gradually develop from friendships. i think that's rather true firstly from observations of friends around me and the relationships which began from being friends at first and those which began with the guy just knowing the girl and trying to work things from there. of course, the latter usually doesn't work out.

cause there's no base there. nothing to work on. and u only see the other party in the eyes of a partner. which is frankly not enough. thinking of it, a guy-girl relationship is no more than a more-well-developed friendship where both find in each other more that special something more than in just friends. but u see, the key here is a friendship. cause things work from there.

and also because of the different roles that a friend and a partner plays. a lover is there to make u feel special. to love u. to surprise u now and then with little somethings tt remind u that u're important at least to him/her. but a friend plays a much more basic role. but being a basic role also means a broader role. a more all-encompassing role. a friend is someone who shares ur troubles, remembers little details about u, talks to u about everything under the sun, tells u and listens to ur whining about your most silly adventures yesterday night, or just simply offers advice and a shoulder to cry on in time of need.

a partner must also play these roles. and a greater extent too. they must know u better. and able to understand u much better too. i'ld like to think of it as something like a food pyramid. so the friend fills in the spaces of carbs and such; whilst the bf/gf fills in the space of the fats. we can say that the friend's role is important although basic, but the role of a soulmate adds a beautiful finishing touch to everything.

i know i can survive w/o a partner, but definately not w/o friends. just like u'll probably die from hypertension just eating fats.

tt's why pple say "u're my friend and lover". cause both roles have to come together. inseperable. for that special someone for you. he/she must be a friend first before they can be a lover.

and any relationship based on fats alone kills.

and often it's our impatience that makes us go straight for the fattest cut of meat instead of starting on the rice first. cause we want everything to be perfect without putting in the due work. but blame it on inexperience as well. and when the other party is a more experienced diner, they'll take things more slowly. which gets u fustrated at times, and u just start to screw things up by showing ur immaturity and desperate side. so, u find that when the next course comes, u're the only one left at the table. lucky if it's desert already. but i was left alone to foot the bill when the appetiser just came in.

but i'm not blaming anyone here, cause i chose the kid's set lunch even before she arrived.

and it's good now tt i'm 1 up on dining experience. although i've always told myself one meal would be enough.

but tt meal doesn't count if u started off and ended up eating alone.

still haven't penned down all the thoughts yet. but it's late. so i'll sleep now.

and guess what. tml's 1st day of holiday! i'll try to get pple to go to bodyworlds/shopping. otherwise it's just me again.