face it.

no one's going to get me tt chardonnay. and it was more of a try out my luck type of thing, so i don't wasn't really expecting anything. :) (ps: any late offers will still be accepted with glee~~)

read a few blogs today, and i must say tt it's a real revelation into what pple are thinking. and maybe it's this type of voyerism tt satisfies an inert human instinct in all of us. and yet this goes 2 ways, cause there's another voice in us which tells us tt we want to have our views heard and mean something. even if we're not comfortable to speak these stuff out verbally. so, tt's why i find this appeal through what blogs offer.

to the high-scorer-who-irritated-me: "know what? the best friends are those who can stick together despite knowing how each feels abt the other in the few times where they annoyed with each other and can still stand each other." :) and i always believe that candidness/frankness is essential in any relationship. cause if the other party means the slightest but to u at all, u'll not want to hide behind a screen. so i always tell the other party what i really think and feel.

so, is frankness the most important factor in all relationships? yes and no. cause it depends on the type of friendship tt u're looking at. for argument's' sake, let's just classify all relationships into those btwacquaintances and those btw friends. the 3rd category would be btw tt special someone, but let's not dwell into tt.

acquaintances are nice pple to have ard u. cause they lubricate ur course in life. they expand ur social circle. u wave hi to them in the lib when u meet them on the staircase or in the corridors. but tt's basically the end of it. u don't even feel like having lunch with them and will probably feel the urge to quickly finish up ur lunch and excuse urself should u end up sitting at the same table with them for a meal, simply because u won't feel comfortable in a period of silence with them. it just feels awkward.

these pple are good to have ard, but u won't sense their absence if they fade away into the background. i don't feel it's necessary to be totally frank to them.

the basis of being frank to someone is actually offering a peekhole where pple can see u as u actually are. it's a passageway where thoughts from u can get out into the outside world. think of it as the hole in the interosseus membrane where veins and arteries can communicate with the other side. (just spoilt the mood didn't it :p) in fact, this is a vunerability tt u're exposing urself to. cause u're subjecting ur thoughts and feelings to purview of others. and it takes courage to do tt. and only pple who matter are worth tt courage.

and pple who are worth tt courage are pple who u want to keep ard u for life. the relationship with them can truly be termed a friendship. and how can u claim tt u have a real friendship if there's always this membrane of falseness dividing u 2? u'll never know the person as he/she really is. the relationship u're having is one with a 'fake' him/her.

only when u see the person as he/she really is, and still find the person over the other side as a friend, not an acquaintance, is there real friendship.

of course, there has to be a great deal of discretion exercised here, and discernment is paramount. and the membrane can't just disappear all at once, but has to slowly enlarge bit by bit as time goes by.

but definately no friendship w/o frankness is worth keeping.

i've met many friends through the yrs, from pri sch all the way to uni, and i'm gonna stick with them all the days of my life. :) how abt u?